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Don't JUST Get Mad... Get Equal!

Sam Ritchie,
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November 17, 2008

In 2000, in the days after the passage of Californias so-called , I remember getting an e-mail that included this quote: Failure is just success that hasnt happened yet. I cant remember who those words were attributed to, but I do remember, in the freshness of that defeat, that they didnt make me feel particularly hopeful.

This year, even in defeat, I see a lot of reason for hope. Yes, our entire community is hurt and angered by the passage of . Add to it the defeats in , and , and it can feel like LGBT folk have been singled out as a kind of national punching bag. Even so, the poll numbers show that Americans recognition of our rights is growing. Just eight years ago, Californians denied our right to marry by a whopping 23 percentage points. This year, the margin was just five points. None of this years anti-LGBT initiatives even came close to the 70 and 80 percent approval we . American attitudes toward recognizing the civil rights of LGBT people are changing, even if we arent winning elections yet.

Already our community has shown that we arent going to take these defeats lying down. Seeing LGBT people and our straight allies taking to the streets to protest in California and across the country is inspiring. Yet, there is still more work to do. After the protests are over, we need to get back to the work of building on the progress weve achieved, so that the lessons of this years failures ensure our future success.

Here are three things we can do NEED to do if were going to reverse the damage done by these initiatives:

1. Talk it up!
When it comes to LGBT rights, nothing changes peoples hearts and minds more effectively than an actual lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person telling their own story in their own words. If a coworker, neighbor or acquaintance knows your story and the impact it will have on your life if they vote to take your rights away, theyre much less likely to do so.See the section for more information.

2. Join a campaign (or start one)!
Protests are a great way to draw attention to an issue, but once the post-election anger dies down, theres more work to be done. Coalitions need to be built. Funds need to be raised. Envelopes need to be stuffed and voters need to be called. Use the Find Local Groups tool on our and contact your local LGBT rights group or 勛圖眻畦 affiliate to find out whats going on in your area.

If theres no campaign nearby, get a few people together and start one! The section of Get Busy, Get Equal has a detailed toolkit to help you get started. Whether you petition your local school district to pass an anti-discrimination policy, work with your city council to establish a domestic partnership registry, or push your legislators to extend partner benefits to state employees, a successful campaign in your community not only helps LGBT people now, but lays important stepping-stones to marriage equality.

3. Spread the word!
If theres one deficit that this election did show, its this: we need more people in our movement. To secure legal recognition of LGBT rights, were going to need more of our supporters gay and straight alike to get involved and start taking action. Help us spread the word by letting your friends know about this website. If youre on Facebook, and ask your friends to do the same. If youve got a blog, link to us. Heck, shout about us from a hilltop if you think itll get your neighbors moving.

Anyone and everyone who cares about LGBT equality whether in California or Arkansas or Idaho or New York needs to get to work if were going to recognize the goal of marriage equality in our lifetimes. So, wherever in the country you are, get busy and lets get equal!

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